makes a marriage
by Jody Reese
If youíre married, youíd
better hurry up and have some kids.
state commission studying same-sex marriage has concluded that marriage
is really just about having children, and therefore because people of
the same sex canít make their own children, they should not be able to
marry or enter a civil union.
Itís not clear what the commissionís next step will be, but I wouldnít
be surprised if they pushed the government to make new laws stopping
senior citizens, infertile people and those not wanting children from
Couples wanting to marry would be required to get tested to make sure
they can have children and would have to agree under the penalty of
perjury that they were going to have children or at the very least adopt
Itís not easy to make public policy about something as emotional as gay
marriage. The Legislature put together this commission as a way to deal
with legalized gay marriage across the border in Vermont and
Massachusetts. Will New Hampshire recognize those civil unions and
marriages? Will New Hampshire pass a constitutional amendment banning
gays from marrying?
Most people oppose gay marriage and about half of all people oppose gay
civil unions. People give different reasons for their opposition. Many
times itís about protecting the sanctity of marriage, though I have no
idea what that means today when about half of all marriages end in
marriage doesnít threaten my marriage. Divorce threatens it. If you
really want to protect the sanctity of marriage, donít let people
divorce. Others argue that gay civil unions threaten the traditions of
we think of marriage has changed dramatically in the last 100 years.
Once marriage was seen as a business arrangement. Today, we take a much
more liberal view of marriage. People get married because they love each
and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Having children is
no longer the primary reason we marry.
Prohibiting gays from marrying doesnít make my marriage any more
special. I donít get great enjoyment out of belonging to some special
tradition that gays canít join. My marriage is special because I love my
wife, and I enjoy sharing my life with her. Itís special in and of
reality the gay-marriage commission has rejected gay marriage, civil
unions and has backed a constitutional amendment baning the recognition
of gay marriages and civil unions because its members donít like
homosexual relationships and do not want them recognized in law. Itís
not about the kids. Itís about gays.
being honest about that, perhaps we can finally face our bigotry against
gays and give them the same rights and responsibilities the rest of us