July 28, 2005
I am two months
pregnant and I am 100 percent sure that terminating this is the best
thing. This came at a bad time. I am 25 years old and am not financially
set and definitely not emotionally ready. I love my boyfriend very much
and he supports my decision to have an abortion. I asked him to
accompany me when I get the procedure done. He has been hesitant when I
have asked him. I do not want to be a bitch about it but he and I need
to deal with the consequence of our carelessness.
What can I say to him
to make him realize I need him there? Thank you, In need of some
It certainly seems like the least he could do, huh? If you donít want to
be a bitch about it, then donít. Ask a close friend or two to accompany
you. Tell them you need them to totally take care of you for the day,
which may include picking you up, being with you during the procedure,
taking you home, bringing you soup, ice cream and snacks and renting
movies for you to watch.
What you will really need on that day is people around you that you can
count on to be nurturing and supportive. And Iím sorry to tell you Ö but
it doesnít sound like thatís your guy.
What you might want to think about is after this is over is this: What
kind of character does your boyfriend have? He will get his girlfriend
pregnant and then not go with her to terminate the pregnancy Ö? Please
know that Iím not trying to make matters worse and Iím not trying to be
harsh. But this should be a red flag for you. When the going gets tough
Öwill he be there for you? I donít care if heís nervous, hesitant or
sick to his stomach. He should really suck it up and act like heís got a
Please have faith in yourself and take care.
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