July 21, 2005
Film & Tube
Food & Drink
MP3's & Podcasts
Might Get Married
by Sherry Hughes
I have been battling
with my mother for as long as I can remember. I love her and I know she
loves me but it feels like she just doesnít want me to grow up. I have a
boyfriend now and want to move in with him. She says she is disgusted
with the idea and Iím ďsettling.Ē
I wish she would just
let me live my life the way I want to. Iím 29 years old and have been
out of the house for a long time. I love my boyfriend and weíve been
together for three years. We might get married someday but that isnít on
my radar right now. I just want to experience more of life before I take
How do I get my mom off
my back and let her know that I love her, but I need to move out of her
house and live my own life?
Iím sure you already know the old saying about buying the cow vs.
getting the milk for free, so I will only mention it in passing.
Life is all about learning independence, doing your own thing, and
knowing that, no matter what happens, youíll be able to take care of
yourself. Trust me, this would be an invaluable gift to give you mom,
too. I think that you might get your mom more on your side once she sees
that you are a grown-up and able to take care of yourself.
In other words, if you want to be treated like a grown-up, start
behaving like one. Grown-ups arenít dependent on their parentsí
Sherry Hughes welcomes
letters from readers. Contact her via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.