Pinings — Advice by Sherry Hughes

Back Off, Buddy

Dear Pinings,

I was invited to go to a party with a guy I know. We arenít seeing each other, he is just a friend. When we got to the place, he started acting as if I was his girlfriend. He put his arm around me and tried to kiss me and stuff.

At one point, I told him to knock it off, and he backed off a little Ö but later on, it was more of the same.

My mom says I shouldnít see him anymore. My friends think heís hot and tell me Iím stupid if I let him go.

I asked him what was going on and I didnít really get a straight answer.

What do you think?

- Melissa

Dear Melissa,

Do you really want to hang out with a guy who behaves in an inappropriate manner like that and then doesnít apologize or even acknowledge it? I donít care if heís hot, his behavior was boorish. I suspect it was for the benefit of the other folks there ó he wanted them to think he was with you as more than a friend. Either that or heís completely socially inept. 

Unless you get a really good explanation and an apology, without having to go looking for it, Iím with your mom.

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