Pinings: The Letter
few months ago, I got a letter (e-mail) from an old boyfriend. He wanted
to get together for a drink and talk about old times. We were dating for
about a year a long time ago …about six years ago. He is dating someone
else, and was just interested in being friends.
said yes initially, but then he told me that I couldn’t tell anyone
because his girlfriend is very jealous. He actually wanted to meet up at
my house rather than a public place. I said absolutely not and that if
he wanted to have a drink, we would need to do it at a restaurant or
bar, regardless of what his girlfriend might think. I haven’t heard from
What do you think of this?
think your ex wanted more than just a drink. I also think you are better
off not being in touch with him.
really believe that if something feels like a secret, it is. And if
someone is keeping a secret from a partner (unless it has to do with a
birthday or other gift-giving occasion), I’d wonder why that is.
don’t have the perfect relationship — no one does — but I know what not
to do, and the big one is to not lie.
If your ex wants to have drinks in a public place, great. Ask him if
your beau can come along and then see what he says.
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