October 13, 2005
Itís that time
again: hunting season. Although I donít have a big moral dilemma with
hunting, it is bothersome to me in a couple of ways: My boyfriend is
gone all the time for a couple of months in the winter. He does musket
hunting, bow and arrow and rifle. He doesnít go every day, but he does
go several times a week. I also donít eat meat, so most of the stuff he
drags out of the woods isnít anything I would eat or cook. He thinks Iím
not being supportive.
What do you think?
- Chris in Hooksett
You donít say whether or not he hunted before you met. If he did, this
is what you signed up for. Itís kind of like him telling to you skip
your book club or biking group. Those are things that make you an
individual and that you shouldnít change.
If your relationship is suffering because of his absences, thatís
another story. If you have children and you are burdened with their care
ó completely on your own ó for several weeks during the year so that he
can hunt, you guys need to talk. And if he isnít pulling his weight
around the house in other ways (chores, home repair, whatever), you need
to address that as well.
You guys might benefit from counseling to address compromises ó when you
need them and how to do them.
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