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November 10, 2005

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Pinings: Move Back Home?
by Sherry Hughes

Dear Sherry,

My mom and dad really want me to move back home with them. I am resisting because I like living on my own, but they are putting the pressure on. I dropped out of college because I had a job I really liked and thought it would be something I could do for a long time. After I got laid off, I had a hard time finding another job. I finally did, but it doesnít pay much. My parents have lent me money, but they say it would be a better idea for me to move home, go back to school and save money.

I agree that itís a good idea, but Iím 20 now and donít think I can live with them. I have a boyfriend and they hate him (because he doesnít have a job and lives with his mom, they think heís lazy). I want to see my boyfriend, and I want to keep my apartment.

Ideas?

- Cidney

- Dear Cidney,

Iím twice your age, so I think moving home is a good, smart idea. Going back to school is a good plan too, as is saving money. I also dropped out of school in lieu of a job and cash in my pocket and a place to call my own. It wasnít all roses, but it worked out. I had two jobs sometimes, no car for a few years, and roommates here and there when I needed to. You can do all of the things you want to do without moving home, but itís going to be very challenging. You may need to sacrifice a lot of the things you would like ó new clothes, trips, concerts. But if you are willing to be diligent and hardworking, you can do it.

An easier way to go, at least financially, is to stay with your folks. I understand how you feel, though. It might make the most practical sense, but it may be the most taxing emotionally.

I only have a good relationship with my parents because I donít live with them.

Good luck.

Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com.