Pinings — Advice by Sherry Hughes

Should I Tell Him?

Dear Sherry,

Last year, I went on vacation with girlfriends and my boyfriend stayed at home. We had a really good time — too much of a good time, probably. I hooked up with a guy. It is eating me alive now—you know, that I was unfaithful and everything. I don’t know if I need to tell him what happened or not. I haven’t said anything so far, but every day I think about it and I feel guilty.

My friends say he doesn’t need to know. My mom says I should learn from it and move on.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We don’t live together.

What should I do?

- Amber

Dear Amber,

Well first of all, if you tell many more people, you won’t need to tell your boyfriend because it will just get back to him.

I am not sure why you would tell him, unless it will make you feel better. You are the one who is in pain. Deal with it.

And your mother sounds like a smart woman. Learn from it and move on is good advice.

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