January 4, 2007

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Pinings: Scroogey
by Sherry Hughes sah103@hotmail.com

Dear Pinings,

I hate the holidays and am glad they are over. Itís really hard to get people to understand this. They always try to get me to buy a tree, go to parties and celebrate with them. Iíve never liked this false sense that everything is alright and peachy just because itís Christmas or New Yearís. I donít want to put a damper on their celebrations, but for me, itís just awful.

I donít have any big thing in my past that makes me dislike them, I just donít like fake stuff. I swear, someone could die on Dec. 24 and the very next day, everyone in that personís life would insist on celebrating anyway.

How do I explain to people that I donít need to change, Iím fine the way I am?
Not really a Scrooge

Dear Not,

As much as you say you have ďnothing in your pastĒ that makes you dislike this time of year, I bet that isnít really true. Iím not saying it was traumatic or dramatic but thereís something that happened somewhere down the line that makes you dislike the celebrations ... either you donít appreciate the social aspects or you donít relate to the religious aspects or you have experienced some kind of falseness that touched you, negatively, in a profound way.

Regardless, you are entitled to feel the way you do. And others are entitled to observe Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa or Ramadan in ways that work for them.

My best advice is to accept that much of your world is changed during the months of November and December. Itís not the way youíd like it, but you are sort of swimming upstream here. You canít change it, but you can live with it. If asked about a tree or decorations, just say, ďIím not really going to do that this year. But Iím happy itís something you enjoy,Ē and leave it at that.

And you neednít explain why to anyone.

Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com


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