Pinings: Dirty laundry
by Sherry Hughes email@example.com
A couple of weeks ago in the laundry room at my apartment complex, a neighbor confided in me that she is having an affair with a man in my building. She didnít know it when she told me, but Iím friends with this manís wife. When she figured it out (by the look on my face), she got all upset and begged me not to tell. I havenít, but Iím not sure whether or not Iím doing the right thing.
These folks have a difficult marriage and Iím not at all sure they should be together. But I donít think an affair is the way to go about ending things either.
I havenít said anything to either of them Ö but Iím finding myself avoiding my friend in fear that Iíll say something I shouldnít. I feel very angry with him, too.
What do I do?
Ah, the holidays. Such fun stuff going on.
If it were up to me, Iíd tell the husband what I know and tell him to fish or cut bait. In other words, tell him to end the affair, end the marriage or ífess up Öbut you arenít going to keep this to yourself forever. If you tell the wife, she may cop a resentment against you rather than him. Iím not sure why things work this way, but they do, and I know because Iíve done it.
Then, try to be loving and helpful when the you-know-what hits the fan.
Happy New Year.
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