by Sherry Hughes email@example.com
I watched a show on television that turned me upside down. No one seems to understand this. I hope you will. My husband and I have a business that is pretty successful. We have one child, a daughter, who is 9. We both work at the business, me in the office, and him out on the road. If we want to, we can close things down and take off for vacation or just take a day off and play hooky. Itís a good life. But like I said, I watched a show on television about hairdressing. I have always thought I would like to be in that field. And when I watched this show, I felt something in me, sadness, I guess, because I feel like I will never be able to do that. Our business, like I said, is successful, but it was more my husbandís dream than mine. I signed on because I wanted to be able to be with my daughter until she went to school. I continued to stay after she went to school because I was in a groove, I guess and things were going well. I like it enough, I just donít love it.
After watching the show, I told one of my friends how I felt. I told her I might want to go to school and learn how to do hair. She looked at me like I was crazy and asked ďAre you serious?Ē
I havenít told anyone else since. Iím afraid my husband will think Iím crazy too and that heíll want me to figure out how we keep running the business without me in the office, etc. Iím 37 years old. I just want a chance to do what I want to do.
Itís not stupid to want to follow a dream. And donít allow anyone to tell you anything differently. Imagine how you will feel at 47 if you donít do anything about this. Sit down with your husband and tell him how you are feeling. Go to a local beauty school and see what they have to say about classes, tuition, hours, etc. You may be able to attend part-time (since you have some flexibility in your schedule) for a while and see if itís really something you want to pursue. Or you might see if you can get a part-time job in a salon, as an assistant or receptionist, to get the feel of the business.
Whether you decide to become a stylist or not is almost secondary. Whatís important is that you honor your place in this world. You are a mom, a wife and a business owner. Now you want to be a hair stylist. Maybe in 20 years, youíll want to be a travel agent or a school teacher. Life is short. Go for it.
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