March 23, 2006

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Pinings: The simple life
by Sherry Hughes sah103@hotmail.com

Dear Pinings,
Iíd really like to do some things to get my life in order. Right now, I donít make much money Ö but I do like my job. The thing is, Iíve seen my parents really struggle to make a living and I donít want to go down that same path.

Iím not materialistic but I want to own a home and have a decent car. I love to travel. And I donít want to spend my life in debt.

Iíve made some decisions that make my friends think Iím crazy. I donít date men who donít have good jobs. I figure itís just as easy to marry a rich man as a poor man. I put as much money as I can in the bank every month and save money wherever I can on clothes and food. They criticize me because I bring a coffee from home to work rather than buying one at the coffee shop. And on the weekends, I rarely pay a $15 cover to go to a club. Iíd rather rent a movie and have a potluck. I feel as if Iím doing whatís right for my future. They call me cheap and a penny pincher.

Should I just loosen the reins and start living a little? Iím 27.
Not-so Cheap Date

Dear Not,
I think you are smarter than many of your friends. You have goals and dreams and you are sacrificing in order to have them. I agree with everything you are doing to save money. I hope, though, that you wonít limit yourself where love is concerned. Rich isnít a quality Iíd be looking for. Iíd be looking along the lines of kind, secure, generous, funny, engaging, smart, loyal, honest. After all, do you want a rich guy who treats you like dirt? Sure, youíd have a decent car and a nice home Ö but youíd be living in hell.
Oh, and a trip to Starbucks once a month canít hurt.

Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com


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