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Pinings: I thought it was love
by Sherry Hughes

Dear Pinings,
In the last year, I’ve been with a lot of different guys. I really thought at the time that I loved each one of them. I know now that I was just getting used for sex and that men say anything they can to get what they want. I’ve now met Jason and I think he’s different from the rest. He’s very respectful and has taken me to meet his parents. We are getting serious and I want to know if I should tell him about the guys I’ve been with. I want him to be honest with me. So, do I get this out in the open now or wait until later?

Jason says he’s not a “player” and hasn’t dated that much. I’m afraid he’ll run away if I tell him the truth.

Dear Shelly,
Slow down. I admire your desire to be honest with Jason, but you are putting the cart before the horse. Honesty is important — as is trust. You need to see if Jason is someone you can trust and is going to be a part of your life for a while before you blurt out your dating history. In any case, I wouldn’t name names or give out numbers. You can tell him, “There was a time when I was confused about men and dated many dishonest guys. I’m not ashamed of anything I did because I learned a lot.”

And leave it at that. Sometimes men want to know the magic number. But when they get that number, they use it as a weapon. That information doesn’t have to be part of your relationship with him.

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Being Patient
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Consumed By The Internet
Crying All The Time
Dating Again
Falling Short
Family Friction
Friend, With Benefits
Friendly Secret
Gift-Giving Season
Go to Funeral?
Hunting Season
In Love and Confused
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Keeping Things Secret
Just Sex
Lying, But Not Cheating
Might Get Married
Move Back Home?
My Boyfriend's Computer
My Roommate's Family
Mutual Intrigue
Needs Support
Newly Single Mother
No Explanation
Nosy Neighbors
Nothing Happened
Oh, Grow Up

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Our Pal Al
Pretty Tight
Publicity Stunt?
Quiet, Please
RSVP, Please
Ruthie's Secret
Should I Stick or Should I Run
Should I Tell Him
Shy Girl
Splitting and Sharing
Stuck In A Sticky Situation
Sucky Gifts
Taking advantage
The Boyfriend & The Friend
The Difficult Coworker
The Letter
The Pain In Spain
The Sad Bride
The Ultimatum
Two Men At The Same Time
Vacation, Not

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