friend and I read your column all the time. We disagree about something
and thought we would ask you what you thought. We
are both 22 and live in the city. Our families are friends and we grew
up doing lots of the same things.
When I meet a guy, I think we should be compatible just like I am with
my girlfriends. I think we should have a lot in common and enjoy doing
the same things. Amber thinks that it’s more interesting to be with
someone who is different so that we can learn different things and have
date guys who I know I’ll have fun with, doing stuff we both like to do.
She thinks I should “step out of my box” and date a guy from a different
religion or even a different country to see all of the different ways
aren’t having a fight about this or anything. But she is always pushing
me to do something different and “live a little.” She says I’m going to
end up doing all the same things my parents did.
-Amber and Felicia
Dear Amber and Felicia,
agree with both ways of thinking. I think it’s a great learning
experience to say yes to dates with men you wouldn’t necessarily think
of as your type. It opens up your world to new ways of thinking and
looking at the world.
also think that there is attraction and comfort in dating people who are
like us and that we know we will get along with and have fun with.
That being said, I agree with Amber’s sentiments about life in general
more than I can say. I hope that you live somewhere other than where you
grew up at some point. I hope you save up some money, quit your job and
go climb a volcano somewhere. I hope you learn a different language,
devote some of your life to helping those less fortunate than you and
that you find out at a young age that dreams do come true.
Amber has a wider view of life in some ways than you do. It doesn’t
make her right or wrong, just different.
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