Pinings: A rock and a hard place
I have a major dilemma that is plaguing my small company. One of my coworkers, “Sandy” is sleeping with another coworker’s ex-husband. The ex-wife is well aware that there is something going on, but is not yet aware of the level of their relationship. “Sandy” is in her early 20s and the ex-husband is in his early 40s. The two seem to be doing many things just to spite the ex-wife. The whole situation in having a detrimental effect on the quality of work here. It’s also creating a hostile workplace. I feel like I am stuck because what do I do if I am approached about the situation? Do I tell the truth or wait till someone else spills the beans?
Thank you for your help! - Stuck between a rock and a hard place....
It’s always hard to deal with people who don’t have any boundaries. Trust me, I’ve known plenty.
It’s really not your place to say anything to the ex-wife, unless you consider her one of your close friends. She might just know more than you think she knows. And you’ve heard the phrase about shooting the messenger, right? On the other side of the coin, ignorance is bliss. She might know all she wants to know.
If things are getting messy at work, you (as the boss) should feel OK about setting the 20-year-old straight about appropriate behavior at work. And you might just give her some advice about being empathetic and kind — if you think that’s appropriate too.
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